^^^ the thing that girls don't always understand (not implying you don't!) is that guys are more lookin for a sexually attractive girl. girls are lookin for a guy who earns good money. i'm sorry but it's true. (this is reallly lame) but it's damn true!
Girls who are sexually attractive are great. Men who make good money are great. Neither of those things is going to guarantee a successful relationship, since neither of those things are qualities that are consistent. The chick will get old, the guy may lose his job...then what?
there is always exceptions and if you are one of them than i respect that. another cliche though is that a woman who can earn her own money will dismiss a bum who can't in a second. a man has got to hold his own to get your respect. am i right?
Anyone can earn their own money, and should. That's the beauty of a good relationship, both people contributing to keep the relationship on an even keel. Would I date a man who didn't work, had no ambitions to ever do anything? Probably not, seeing as how I work two jobs and go to school and am pretty self sufficient, I have no desire to take care of a man who doesn't have enough respect
for himself that he would allow me to do that. If the guy loses his job or something or is in an accident then yeah, that's an exception.
Not really. I don't love a guy for how much he makes (or lack of) because money is just paper to me. Yeah, it buys me things, but I'd rather have a guy who loves me than have money, tbh. I respect a guy who respects me. If he doesn't make money for whatever reason, I really don't care. If he wants to take some of my money, whatever, just leave enough for rent.
EDIT: Of course, I am just speaking for myself.
I agree. Loving someone
only for how much money they make, how attractive they are, how successful they are is a recipe for disaster.
But I do disagree on one thing. Money may be just paper, but without it you would be homeless and on the street and I have no desire to be in that situation. And love and respect are always the key factors in a relationship, but if he doesn't love or respect me enough to contribute then that isn't a relationship I am going to be happy with. Both parties should have something to bring to the table. Otherwise, why bother? And, when you are a couple, there really shouldn't be MY this or MY that. Sharing is caring
Yeah but sometimes that woman likes having the bum around to make herself feel more superior, which of course is vice versa aswell.
Insecurity is never attractive, bro. I don't need a man to feel good about myself, and a man who needs a woman for the same reason needs to get right with themselves.
I honestly dont see the big deal in some sexual attraction. I admire people who can look past it completely, but I think there's nothing wrong with being physically/sexually attracted to someone to date them.
Usually the 'sexual attraction' is affected by other things, like getting to know someone you would otherwise find unattractive may make her more appealing. Ie personality may just numb your physical attraction to enjoy a relationship with her.
I think it's totally normal. All the people that are materialistic enough to worry about money, clothes, cars etc - can fuck the other smug assholes on this planet that care about the same thing. Eventually, I imagine they'll just die off
I've dated guys who, at first glance, weren't someone I was overly physically attracted to. It takes time to learn about people, and while what is on the outside may not be what you would have looked for initially, I find certain aspects of their personality to enhance their attractiveness. Being funny is sexy. Being smart is sexy. Having things in common and being able to have good conversations is sexy. That's not ALWAYS the case, but it is definitely a factor. I'd rather have someone who I could connect with on multiple levels, than be with a guy just because we made 'a cute couple.'
There are just those "total package" girls that are out there and you know they are. Someone you can be physically attracted to as well as emotionally and mentally. Those girls are a dime a dozen but they are out there and most guys with sense wish to seek that "perfect" love at first site storybook romance
Not every man or womans idea of 'the total package' is the same though. If you prefer blondes, but met a brunette who had every other quality you were looking for, would you NOT date her?
I myself don't believe in love at first sight. I believe in
lust at first sight, but it takes more than appearances to actually fall in love with someone. Or it should. Storybook romance? Really, bro? It has been my experience that if everything seems perfect, something is very wrong. Usually it is the difficult times, and obstacles overcame together that makes a relationship stronger.
