Alrighty, here we go.....
1. Am I the only chick who really doesn't care if the guy doesn't last long? I mean, as long as it's longer than say 5 minutes, I don't see what the big deal is. Maybe it's just because I do achieve orgasm so easily and quickly (one of my female friends is amazed how quickly that can happen for me since it takes her a while, and apparently most chicks do), but I've never seen what the big deal is. As long as you both have fun and get relief, who cares. Plus like you said, you can always get revved up for round two and last longer then. I guess for me there's a solid line between lasting long enough to have a good time and lasting too long. If the guy lasts too long, then I'd start to think I'm doing something wrong or not pleasing him well enough, or that he isn't into it, etc. That's why I've never understood guys actually trying to make themselves last a lot longer. Lasting a while, good. Lasting a good long while (aka "too" long), eh.
2. Confidence is a wonderful thing. However, that's not to be confused with being cocky. Cocky guys tend to be a major turn-off for most females, but confidence on the other hand is a major turn-on. So stop being so worried about rejection, dudes. Have the confidence to actually approach a woman, flirt, ask her out, whatever. The worse that can happen is she'll say no (which in the grand scheme of things isn't a big deal), and if she says no you just stay polite and classy, then go on to the next chick and try again. Not every chick is going to say yes, but once you get used to accepting rejection and realizing it's not all that bad after all, you'll be a lot better off for it. Think of all the chicks you pass up on just because you're worried they may reject you, and think how many of those may have said yes if you had just asked. It's better to ask and find out than pass up the opportunity.
3. Correct with the sense of humor bit. We females LOVE a guy with a good sense of humor. My closest female friend and her dude have been together almost 5 years, and she still says one of the things she loves most about him is his ability to make her laugh. That means SO much more than you might think. When we have crappy days, things aren't going well, we're upset, etc., it's wonderful to have a guy who will be there to make us laugh when we need it most, and all the random times in between. That's a big deal to most women with enough sense to have figured that out by now. It's a great asset, so don't downplay it or think it's not a big deal, because it is.
4. However, the "friend zone" thing is more of a myth. I really hate that term. Sorry guys, but it mostly seems like a phrase guys toss out there and use to make us women sound like evil bitches for choosing to be friends rather than date you. This "friend zone" doesn't exist. Here's the thing..... if a guy comes up and by all accounts seems to want to be a friend and doesn't say he's romantically interested, then it's not our fault if later on when he decides to confess he's interested in more, we say we're not interested in dating him. Be honest and upfront from the get go. It's one thing if you develop stronger feelings through the friendship. It's another thing entirely if you think a girl is hot or whatever and want to date her, but decide to take the friendly route instead. Then it just seems like you were deceitful with your intentions the whole time and that you formed a fake friendship to try to get into our pants. So sorry to burst the bubble, but the friend zone doesn't exist. We're just either romantically / sexually interested in a guy, or we're not. But there's not some horrid "friend zone" that we exile guys to as punishment or anything.
This long diatribe brought to you by Miss Nazi.
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