Why should you care if you aren't wanted? People should come to forums to post their thoughts. It's not really a place to make friends, just a discussion board.
I come for both. I want good discussion, but I also want people I enjoy talking with. If this place didn't have people like SP, K-man, Rell, Chuck, This Guy, TDK, WS etc (Sorry if I forgot you) then I likely would not be here. Comfort is the name of the game.
A lot of people bitch at me when I post in the flame forum here but when I post outside of it, people are fine and don't start shitting all over the place. Regardless of who the member is, there is a reason why people wont like someone. Let's say the person is a spammer and no one wants them around because they spam in every post. I'll bet you that if they started to post normal posts and got involved in discussions, people wouldn't mind having them around. I'll bet you that the people here who dislike me wouldn't feel the same way if I never posted in the flame forum. Do you know what I mean?
I see what you're trying to say, but you're mostly wrong. (Exceptions to everything) Sometimes personalities just don't click, and sometimes the person is really just very awkward and it doesn't work out. Not to mention that people are very judgemental, and its hard to change an appearance.
You can be the most hated person in a forum but if you involve yourself in normal, intelligent discussions, they wont care about you being annoying anymore.
Again, I see where you're coming from, but a lot of people aren't here for just that. There's always more.