Rough Times

[Rated R Superstar]

So, we just found out my mother has MS(Multiple Scerosus, unsure if I spelt that correctly) and it's taken quite the toll on my mentally. I see those commercials and I freak out. That's my mom man! Who the fuck wants to see their mother suffer like that? Turns out it's not as bad as those commercials, and can be somewhat treated so she doesn't end up like that. But the idea of it possibly happening to her scares the crap out of me! I'm kind of over the whole thing now, but now and again, it pops up, and scares me.

Ever have to go through rough times like this? If so, how did you cope?

 

[Ryan]

Well, first of all, I'm sorry your mother has MS. I've had teachers with MS and I have seen what it can do to people so hopefully she can get treatment and hopefully it was caught early enough that the progress can be slowed.

My grandfather died of cancer. I remember toward the end he was suffering so badly I was almost glad to see him go because at least it was all over. On one hand, this is someone you love so you kind of selfishly want them to stay alive but on the other hand this is someone you love and you never want to see them suffer like that. I don't know how everyone else handles their pain but I just kind of look to the sky and remind myself that he's in a better place now.

You just gotta be there because if it scares you, imagine how she feels about it. I mean, she may never admit it and may not ever let you see that she's afraid, but MS is a scary disease. These challenges are all just a part of life. "The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places."

 

[Slim]

I've had my fair share of that sorta stuff coming in and... I learned firstly... not to try to cope with it all alone. You try to handle it all in your mind on your own and it will eventually overwhelm you and overtake you. It can break ya. Me... I used music, writing, and then I'd find those friends that I trust more than anybody else... the true true real friends that you know won't say anything to anyone... and you confide in them. Even if they don't have an answer, a reply, or anything... just being able to talk about it helps.

But sorry your mom has MS. Hopefully things will be able to get better for her.

 

[Rated R Superstar]

I've never really had friends like that. All my friends are really more or less assholes. Like, they can't go out of their way to do something I really enjoy, but I am forced to do anything my power(including calling in sick to work) to do their shit. That's another story.

Anyway, I can't trust many people with my feelings, as I rarely let out my feelings. Hence why I kinda posted it on here, because really only 2 people on here have my on Facebook. But normally the internet people don't post shit on my wall or anything, still though, if you have me on Facebook, don't post shit please... I still kind of want to keep this shit private not only for my sake, but my mother's sake. Only a handful of people know about it.

 

[Undertaker]

RRS, wanted to post a reply before I go off for the evening.

I have been in a similar position to you and still am. My mum suffers from lots of illnesses and she is always back and forth to the hospital. She has arthritis practically all over her body and its only a matter of time until her body completely locks up. She had a health scare a few months back where she collapsed and couldn't breath. I actually thought that was it, that she was going to die. She is quite old and things are getting tougher and tougher. I still have a laugh and a joke with her to keep her spirits up whilst she can still do things. If I were you RRS I wouldn't let this news get to you, you just have to value the time that you have with your mum and let nature run its course.

Things like this make you realise just how precious your mum is.

 

[Slim]

I've never really had friends like that. All my friends are really more or less assholes. Like, they can't go out of their way to do something I really enjoy, but I am forced to do anything my power(including calling in sick to work) to do their shit. That's another story.

Anyway, I can't trust many people with my feelings, as I rarely let out my feelings. Hence why I kinda posted it on here, because really only 2 people on here have my on Facebook. But normally the internet people don't post shit on my wall or anything, still though, if you have me on Facebook, don't post shit please... I still kind of want to keep this shit private not only for my sake, but my mother's sake. Only a handful of people know about it.

I've found that sometimes those internet friends are the ones that will be closer to you than the ones in real life. But I understand what ya mean bout friends like that. I just happened to luck out and find a couple that I can go to.

 

[Rated R Superstar]

Not these guys, they'll joke about it and just want to smoke pot and get drunk. I don't mind doing either, but when I'm in an awful mood like that, I just don't feel like it.

Also [MENTION=536]Ryan[/MENTION] I know the feeling about cancer bro. Well you know my history with it really(kinda). But I did lose some family to it. As well as a close friend.

 

[Slim]

Sometimes just gotta go to a stranger. cause at least then... well I dunno... sometimes it helps.

 

[Pete]

I've never really had friends like that. All my friends are really more or less assholes. Like, they can't go out of their way to do something I really enjoy, but I am forced to do anything my power(including calling in sick to work) to do their shit. That's another story.

Anyway, I can't trust many people with my feelings, as I rarely let out my feelings. Hence why I kinda posted it on here, because really only 2 people on here have my on Facebook. But normally the internet people don't post shit on my wall or anything, still though, if you have me on Facebook, don't post shit please... I still kind of want to keep this shit private not only for my sake, but my mother's sake. Only a handful of people know about it.

Sounds to me like you're a doormat. I used to be the same way, until I learned that I come first. Everyone else can wait in line. Learn that, and you'll be much better off in every aspect of your life.

 

[Ozymandias]

My mum has had cancer and my dad has had severe heart issues. Thankfully, thanks to great doctors and nurses (and medicine) are both alive today, longer than they thought they would be.

RRS, it's really tough when someone we love gets sick and there's nothing we can do about it, luckily today we live in a world where the treatment is there to look after our loved ones and keep them healthy. It might be tough at the moment, but just keep remembering; while your mom is with the doctors, there's no safer place she could be.

 

[Rated R Superstar]

She doesn't even go to the Hospital for anything. It's a small thing right now, and she has some medicine and stuff. But every time I see her struggling with something, it bothers me.

 

[We Are Legion]

Sounds like you have some pretty terrible friends, RRS. I'm not gonna sit here and write a how-to on making new friends and I don't know your whole story, but finding a new crew is definitely in your best interest if you can't even talk to them about things like this. It sure as fuck beats the hell out of putting up with all their bullshit if you don't even get a return on those investments. That's the whole point of friendship in the first place. But if you're already to the point where it seems like reaching out to a wrestling forum full of strangers is a better option than talking to your "friends" about it, then I'm sorry, but your friends aren't worth a damn. I really won't even begin to speculate on why you would carry that baggage around in the first place. If it has something to do with "loneliness" and you just want companionship despite how little those companions give a fuck about you, then I have news for you, you're already alone. AND you're getting played.

 

[Kiffy Lube]

Want some help changing your identity RRS? I charge 500 dollars but it's worth it.

 

[Lewb]

I hate replying to stuff like this because its hard to write something an not make it sound like a comparison but here goes.

Im going through shit at the moment too. I had my break from fedding whatever because my old man had a heart failure, so I flew out to Spain fearing the worst. He was in a coma for 15 days and he won't be 100% fit again. He's in a hospital now doing physio and stuff as he's forgotten how to walk and such.

I done the crying, I done the sitting and moping, I done that "never talk about heart problems in vain" phase. I've also gone the other way and reeled myself back in coz I was going off the rails with the drink and what have you. If I had advice, it would be just to try and carry on to the best of your abilities. If not for yourself, but for your mother.

But yeah, from We Are Legions point, I've had nothing but support from 10-15 close friends since its happened. THAT is as important as anything tbh.

 

[Rated R Superstar]

It's hard to have support from friends and such when are in a secluded area. Literally in the bush. But I talked to my bud about it, he actually didn't joke about it and shit like I half expected him too. Instead we just sat their and talked. We then watches some cartoons and such, as cartoons usually help me out when I'm stressed. Was a good thing for me. A little bit of weight has been taken off my shoulders.