Looks aren't everything dude. You need to stop focusing on looks. Maybe she sees that you have a good personality. This whole thing about looks and shit, it's not healthy. Look at me, I'm an overweight white guy who rarely shaves, yet I can grab some attention from girls because I'm just a nice guy. So yeah, the whole "she's hot, I'm not" thing has to stop. That's just shallow.
Also I'd recommend going up to her and whipping your dick out, and say "SUCK ON MY LOLLY!" In a Batman voice. Chicks dig that shit.
Sorry, couldn't contain the troll answer any longer. You know how I am!
Everyone does. Most girls in their 20s won't want to get it on with a guy in his thirties :why:
Andy said:Just talk to her whenever you see her. Have no fear, and when you talk to her, don't do it in such a way where you think anything will happen between you too. The only time you should do that is if she gives you explicit signs within the context of your conversations.
By the way, regardless of what you think, the beard should go. Most women don't like facial hair unless it's a goatee or chin strap, and those women are few in number. You're not a bad looking dude, you could totally find someone. On top of that, you're uber-smart. While it's not necessary, might I suggest hitting up the gym a bit?
Furthermore, don't be afraid to be yourself. Express all of your interests after you've established some sort of relationship with this girl.
Be your own man, don't listen to what anyone else has to say, especially Mayhem :
It's called arm curls, breh.
And why would you want to look older? -______- A girl does want you looking older. They'd rather you look younger. Also, were the girls who told you that sober?