Has anyone in your family ever died suddenly?

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Today I got the unfortunate news that my dads brother and my uncle passed away. The cause of death is unknown right now. I don't really know what to do.

Has anyone in your family died suddenly and how did you cope with it?
 
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A good friend of mine who I would consider as close to family as possible committed suicide a couple of years ago, so yes, I've dealt with sudden deaths before. In some ways they are a little easier to take (as opposed to watching someone waste away for years, which I have also done) and in other ways its worse.
 

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A good friend of mine who I would consider as close to family as possible committed suicide a couple of years ago, so yes, I've dealt with sudden deaths before. In some ways they are a little easier to take (as opposed to watching someone waste away for years, which I have also done) and in other ways its worse.

How'd you deal with it
 

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There's no real right or wrong way to deal with the situation, everyone handles grief differently so I can't give you an answer that's going to fix things. It's important to remember that this is someone who was in your immediate family, so make sure you're there for the rest of the family to help out and don't forget to talk to your dad about it when you feel ready.
 

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There's no real right or wrong way to deal with the situation, everyone handles grief differently so I can't give you an answer that's going to fix things. It's important to remember that this is someone who was in your immediate family, so make sure you're there for the rest of the family to help out and don't forget to talk to your dad about it when you feel ready.

Unfortunately I wasn't very close with him so I can't feel that sad
 

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Unfortunately I wasn't very close with him so I can't feel that sad

Then make sure to be there for your dad and that's all I can tell you.
 

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Like 12 years ago a cousin of mine died in a car crash it and hit me hard as I was pretty close to him, then about 2 years ago another cousin of mine died after going to the dentist but it didn't hit as hard as I wasn't as close to him. Like Fuju said sometimes that's easier then and less painful then watching someone suffer for while, but also it can be tough as you was mentally ready for it. Hell I was so tore up from my cousins death 12 years ago I didn't go to the funeral cause I just couldn't handle any of it because of how sudden it was. But just be there for your dad cause he'll surely need you.
 

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My dad is a strong person. He's not going to let himself get torn up over it. He's not one of those people that just lose track of life because they lost someone. He knows his kids need him so he's going to stay strong. That's why I love my dad so much. He'll be ok
 

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Even if he doesn't show it on the outside he just lost his brother, I'm sure he's torn up about it. Like Fuji said, be there for support if he needs it.

My uncle died back in 2002, I was really young and it was the day I got a PS1 actually. I remember I asked him to come play and he said he would when came back. Obviously that didn't happen. The bright side to it is that my sister and cousin were in the car with him and they lived. We were really close though, in fact last night I was talking to a cousin of mine about how he said he would buy me beer on my 19th birthday. He actually held on for a while in the hospital but I didn't really know what was going on, he was just gone like that to me. I don't really know how I dealt with it, like I said I was young. I just cherish my memories with him and have a picture of him framed on my entertainment center.

As for what Fuji said about someone wasting away, my dad had a friend who was dying in the hospital and he couldn't go see them. Seeing my uncle dying in a hospital was just too much for him. I remember he acted like there was nothing wrong when he wouldn't go see his friend but it was so obvious that he was hurting. I guess it really sucks watching them leave when you know there's nothing you can do.
 

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Then make sure to be there for your dad and that's all I can tell you.
I haven't had anyone die in my family suddenly, they have died because of a long standing illness or something of the sort. So I haven't had to grief a sudden loss so what Fuji said is the only advice I can really offer you. Condolences to you and your family.
 

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Back in October of 2009 my sister, who was only 31 years old, passed away. She had caught the swine flu virus, and she also had epilepsy so that wasn't a good combination for her. The swine flu caused her to have a fever, and then she had a seizure in her sleep.

It was the most difficult thing I have ever had to deal with, and I consider it to be the worst day of my life. I was so close with her so it was really rough for me to go through, but I think about her every day. We have her ashes with us in a book case, and there's pictures of her surrounding it as a memorial. Like I said, I think about her every day, and always try to remember the good memories that we shared.

I lost one of my grandmas a year before that, and even though it wasn't sudden due to her being sick for a long time, it was still a tough thing to deal with.

All I can say is be there for your Dad because even though he isn't showing it, he is hurting, so just be there for him.
 

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Back in October of 2009 my sister, who was only 31 years old, passed away. She had caught the swine flu virus, and she also had epilepsy so that wasn't a good combination for her. The swine flu caused her to have a fever, and then she had a seizure in her sleep.

It was the most difficult thing I have ever had to deal with, and I consider it to be the worst day of my life. I was so close with her so it was really rough for me to go through, but I think about her every day. We have her ashes with us in a book case, and there's pictures of her surrounding it as a memorial. Like I said, I think about her every day, and always try to remember the good memories that we shared.

I lost one of my grandmas a year before that, and even though it wasn't sudden due to her being sick for a long time, it was still a tough thing to deal with.

All I can say is be there for your Dad because even though he isn't showing it, he is hurting, so just be there for him.

Oh shit sorry about your sister. That must be rough. I'm always here for him and will continue to be