Girls & Relationships

[The Anigma]

You need to show your romantically interested soon. You've went too long without being anything but friends. So ask her to hang out with you and tease her, flirt with her, etc. Find a reason to touch her and let her feel comfortable around you but don't go overboard and shove your tongue down her throat lol...Make sure the day is just fun and you go someplace that you have a lot of things to talk about where you can converse and interact with one another.

This is the best advice I can give you considering it seems as though you've been friendzoned (you said it yourself that she's your best friend) and to get out of the friendzone is near impossible the majority of the time.

In my experience, there are two ways this situation can go. She can either feel the same way about you as you do her and become your girl or she'll give you the "let's just be friends" speech and things will be seem even more awkward between the two of you.

If she feels the same way about you, great; if she rejects you, then move on and pursue other girls.

 

[Seventh Reason]

First off - can we have a new rule which demands that pictures should be posted of said girls?

Simple answer for you comicgeekelly, because I was in that very same situation a few years back: DON'T JEOPARDISE YOUR FRIENDSHIP!

Be grateful for the bond you have, otherwise if you tilt too far into romance it will most likely backfire, ESPECIALLY since you are unsure of what she truly thinks of you.

One day, if you sense a similar affection from her - talk about it, including any mutual emotions you might have for eachother. Set the record straight, and proceed as you would both like to, whether it remains friends or taking the next step.

One thing is for sure - if you do not investigate these issues any further, your friendship will turn awkward and possibly collapse. You will become so impatient to release your own feelings that they will erupt without any precursors, and make her feel uncomfortable.

I was emphatically in love with a close friend of mine at age 16, and to this day I am sure this was not love masquerading as sexual desire. I regularly sent out "feelers" to express my emotions to her without rationally talking about it. Gifts, regular phone calls - you name it. In turn, she accepted these with open arms, and wasn't exactly expressing her true feelings either.

This came to a climax when I came to her house one afternoon (not uninvited, by the way) and let it all drop.

It was only a few months later, my sister told me how her parents called mine and threatened legal action, because she was brainwashed by her sister into the idea that I was stalking her. That's not something you take lightly, it's a serious allegation.

End of the day, her closest girlfriends are now under the impression I am living evil, and I have never seen or spoken to my one true love for years. And the pain still exists, because she still in my thoughts every week.

So please, don't make the same fucking mistake I did.

Seventh Reason ... out.

 

[noumenon]

Alright...
I really don't think anyone truly understands what love is at age 16. It's all simply infatuation. Every guy at one time or another wants one his female friends. You may think you are "IN LOVE" with them but I really don't think that's the case. When you have a female "friend" you've already put that friend boundary and label on them. A friend implies that it's a non-sexual relationship.
Now you may have plenty of friends (male) and this is obviously never going to come up....why....because you are not sexually attracted to them. Every guy wants to have sex with every attractive woman he sees....bottom line. Just like every girl wants to have sex with every attractive guy she sees. That's right.....that hot dude that walked past you and your girl in the mall the other day....she pictured riding him. And there's nothing wrong with that, it's human nature. Since it may be a friend that you have this feeling to you immediately tell youself it will never and cannot happen. So you let your mind wander out of control and eventually build them up to be something you love.
Situations like this can be easily enough avoided by just putting your feelings out there. It can be done in a simple enough way. All you really have to say is... "Ya know, you really are attractive. If we weren't in a plutonic friendship you'de definately be someone I'de ask out."
It's that simple. This way it's put out of the way, and you don't come out with "I THINK I LOVE YOU!!!" which will scare any girl off...friend or not.
I have many female friends that I haven't had sex with....but I have more that I have. Why? Because we found each other attractive and decided to get it out of the way before it ruined a potentially great friendship.

 

[Moonlight Drive]

@ Seventh Reason: Man, that's pretty rough. I feel for ya, as I've been through a similar situation, although definitely not to that extent. The only problem is a lot of things people do can often be misconstrued. One girl may find some romantic, another may find it creepy/stalker-esque. Sadly a year or so ago I didn't understand this (now I can see the signs that the way I went about it was completely wrong, but eh) and made a pretty major mistake which has destroyed a once closer than family relationship I had with a girl.

@ CGK. You can't just tell her you love her. I'm sure that will freak her out. I'm sure you have regular conversations and such, the only way is too send out subtle (and The Rock mean subtle) feelers to try and differentiate whether she does feel the same or just thinks of you as a very good friend. Problem is, girls are rather devious and misleading without meaning to. Speaking to her friends about whether she has a thing for anybody or even her personally could be a more convincing path, but once again, subtlety is important.

Now I have yet another problem (yay~!). Ok, I'm sure we remember the girl I rattled on about for pages upon pages. (I'm Seventh Reason wants a piccy, there's one with her in the Real You thread). We're better friends than ever, and I'm kinda back into her, but I just don't get how to get closer. I can manage to have her in hysterics the whole time together, but it's a mixed blessing, as that's all I can seem to do. Any idea on how to advance this?

And how can you tell definitively that a girl likes you? Because I've had a strong idea this one girl likes me, but it's not like I can go 'you really want me ayyyyy lolz'

 

[Beer]

In experience, you can never tell if a girl likes you or not, simple. The only way to find out is to test, do all that Anigma said, and if she doesn't like you, she will make it apparent, believe me. Which is when you step off, before you ruin your friendship.

 

[gamebreaker]

It's kinda obvious if a girl doesn't like you.
But you've gotta play your cards the right way to make her like you.

Oh, and my relationship right now is freakin' awesome. We go out like every night now lol
And the cool thing is, her parents love me

 

[The Rated R CMStar]

Ok, so, I went out with I girl tonight. It's actually quite interesting with her because she goes against everything I like. I prefer dark hair and she's blonde, I like white skin pushing paleness while she has a tanned like skin tone. She's a goofball and I prefer serious girls, but I actually enjoy her company.

However, I found out something about myself tonight:

I can't date taller girls.

I didn't know how much it could annoy me the fact of someone being taller...and she wasn't even wearing heels.


So, any advice on this subject, on how I could deal with it?

 

[The Anigma]

There's a couple of things you can do if it annoys you to the point that you cannot date her.

First, you can just tell her you enjoy her company but see her as more of a good friend rather than a girlfriend.

Or you can talk to her about it which won't help matters because she's probably insecure about her height especially if she's significantly taller than you.

You can always wear vertical striped shirts. They give the illusion of having extra height...lol j/k...

 

[Moonlight Drive]

I say just give it a chance. It may just take a little getting used to, so there's no reason to back out right away. Give it a while and see if you get used to it, if it's still an irritation after a fortnight or so just go with what Anigma said. The option of 'good friend' not girlfriend' always seems to be the best.

Now I have yet another problem (yay~!). Ok, I'm sure we remember the girl I rattled on about for pages upon pages. (I'm Seventh Reason wants a piccy, there's one with her in the Real You thread). We're better friends than ever, and I'm kinda back into her, but I just don't get how to get closer. I can manage to have her in hysterics the whole time together, but it's a mixed blessing, as that's all I can seem to do. Any idea on how to advance this?

Still needing some help with this tbh, although it isn't as bad anymore.

 

[X-Sterl-X]

My opinion never really mattered to you, but if I was you


I would spend more time with her/and talked to her as much as you can.


And as she continues to get more and more open with you just start feeling around a little slowly and see what she lets you do, if she likes it, you know you are doing good, if not, than back off and just keep getting closer. I had the same issue with my current gf, and I did this and it worked really well, and she took everything really slow


(no sex for first 8 months)

 

[Moonlight Drive]

That's what I thought would work initially. Started to get touchy feely, she freaked out. And I spend a lot of time with her, seems like the whole thing's just remained static for the last 8 months or so.

 

[THE Brian Kendrick's Biceps]

Ok, so, I went out with I girl tonight. It's actually quite interesting with her because she goes against everything I like. I prefer dark hair and she's blonde, I like white skin pushing paleness while she has a tanned like skin tone. She's a goofball and I prefer serious girls, but I actually enjoy her company.

However, I found out something about myself tonight:

I can't date taller girls.

I didn't know how much it could annoy me the fact of someone being taller...and she wasn't even wearing heels.


So, any advice on this subject, on how I could deal with it?

Cut her shins off. That would make you taller than her, right?


Pat, if she freaks out about more touchy with yoiu then I don't think she actually likes you.

 

[Moonlight Drive]

Lulz, neither do I.

That was a while ago anyway Jimmeh. Fugg you.

 

[rosewt01]

---BuMpInG tHiS tHrEaD--

So How do you make a girl friend to you're girlfriend and awkwardly this actually is for a friend, i am honestly telling the truth because i can't help him in any way shape or form.

Ps - ThIs AcTuAlLy Is FoR a FrIeNd I aM nOt LyInG.

 

[straight_edge76]

what the hell exactly are you trying to say? Like the was it is worded is confusing.