So this is the wife and I first Christmas with our child. Born in September.
We were looking forward to Christmas. Spending time with family etc. But now it's shitty. Who would have known how difficult it would be to please everyone with a holiday schedule.
My mother is to blame mostly though. Which is hard for me having the wife upset with her.
My whole life (ok well 95% of it) we've celebrated on 3 days.
Xmas eve, Xmas day, boxing day.
Xmas eve was my family and papa (mom's dad)
Xmas day was family and grandparents (dads side)
Boxing day was family and nana (mom's mom)
Which was normal.
Before this year the wife and I would split up on Xmas day for dinner with our own families. No biggie. But now add the baby in the mix.
My mom feels like they're "chopped liver" because we're going to my wife's mom's house for Xmas dinner this year. She feels like at best we should alternate years... but my family already has the 2 surrounding days. We have a bigger family.
The wifes family is smaller and they only have ever had 1 dinner.
So now the mother-in-law feels that my mom doesn't like her and the wife is starting to resent my mom because of the way she's acting. And I'm just here like.... wtf.
I hate that my mom is being rather rude about it, to the point that it's bugging the mother in law. And my wife doesn't want me to tell my mom that.. but I feel like she should know what her attitude is doing to not only my wife's mom, but it's starting to affect our relationship at home. I just don't know how to do it without offending my mom.
Sorry for the rant I just needed to get that out.
Merry Christmas! Lol