How would you react?

[Farooq]

I trust no one/nothing.

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>Looking to be drunk
>Being in a place with half naked men for hours
>Looking for a good time

Of course I wouldn't trust her to go to a place like that. For one, they could try to get her drunk, two they wouldn't care if she was in a relationship, and three they could still try to rape her if anything. She needs the BBC Broadcasting service to protect her.

 

[catlady]

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>Looking to be drunk
>Being in a place with half naked men for hours
>Looking for a good time

Of course I wouldn't trust her to go to a place like that. For one, they could try to get her drunk, two they wouldn't care if she was in a relationship, and three they could still try to rape her if anything. She needs the BBC Broadcasting service to protect her.

The realization of loose people mixing with booze makes me sick to my stomach.

 

[Lockard 23]

My reaction was not about the trust for my husband but more the trust I have in other women. If a woman is drunk and already loose she isn't going to care if he is married or not.

That's what I was talking about lol. I mean that if I had a girlfriend or wife and she went to a place with a bunch of guys around and she got drunk (like I said, people can exhibit erratic behavior when drunk), then I'd be worried one of the guys there would hit on her and she wouldn't go against it because she was drunk off her ass. I don't trust them guys.

 

[Lady Deathbane]

Relationships are obviously different for everyone. Being married is definitely a lot different than being in a casual relationship, so I can't fully understand what you are going/what you went through. I can only share what I've personally experienced thus far.

If there's no trust, then there's no relationship, really. I hardly ever call or text my boyfriend when we're apart. Only when something important comes up (or if there's like a really funny video/meme that I know he'd love lol). Otherwise, I almost never know what he's doing and who he's with. I realize he has his own life, his own interests and a lot of the time that probably doesn't involve me.

My boyfriend doesn't party anymore, drink/smoke/etc, but he still hangs out with party people. His best friends are like those guys who constantly plan the best party ever. And a lot of the time Pedro is still there because he's the "sober driver" so he's probably around promiscuous ladies a lot but it's whatever. I trust him and he's not really like that. (Also keep in mind that some of his friends have moved a few cities away and he still keeps in contact with them so sometimes he's even out of the city for days/a week.) We have a really chill relationship. It's been over a whole year already and we're nowhere near that "i love you" stage. He does his own thing and I do mine. Best relationship I've had so far.

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[catlady]

Relationships are obviously different for everyone. Being married is definitely a lot different than being in a casual relationship, so I can't fully understand what you are going/what you went through. I can only share what I've personally experienced thus far.

If there's no trust, then there's no relationship, really. I hardly ever call or text my boyfriend when we're apart. Only when something important comes up (or if there's like a really funny video/meme that I know he'd love lol). Otherwise, I almost never know what he's doing and who he's with. I realize he has his own life, his own interests and a lot of the time that probably doesn't involve me.

My boyfriend doesn't party anymore, drink/smoke/etc, but he still hangs out with party people. His best friends are like those guys who constantly plan the best party ever. And a lot of the time Pedro is still there because he's the "sober driver" so he's probably around promiscuous ladies a lot but it's whatever. I trust him and he's not really like that. (Also keep in mind that some of his friends have moved a few cities away and he still keeps in contact with them so sometimes he's even out of the city for days/a week.) We have a really chill relationship. It's been over a whole year already and we're nowhere near that "i love you" stage. He does his own thing and I do mine. Best relationship I've had so far.

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Sounds like you are taking it slow. Good for you! Sound advice as well. I am naturally paranoid when it comes to relationships because I had horrible friendships with women and my only other long term relationship aside from my husband was with a guy who cheated, lied and was just an awful person. The female friends I had stabbed me in the back, one was actually with guys... Anytime a guy liked me she would tell them I was a hoe or had a disease then sleep with them. It happened more than a couple times. So right there I don't trust women around my husband, specially drunk ones. And he too has a friend that is mr. party harty. A year or so ago he was doing all kinds of drugs, drunk all the time, it was bad... And he hung out with him. The way he talked about women made me want to vomit. He no longer sees him all that much but just like a few years ago, he will be going to this "thing" with him again... I guess I am more worried about his effects on my husband, than my husband's own freewill, if that makes sense. I don't trust his friend and I never will.

 

[Nano]

I think its more like this :

"She slept with another man? *calls ex* "Its game on!" (men)
"He slept with another woman?!" *grabs cars keys* "I'm going to kill that bitch!" (women)

But honestly... If my husband cheated on me... My focus would be on him, not her because he has the final say... No matter how much she tempted him.

If Chloe cheated on me I would talk to her and ask her why she did it. I wouldn't get mad because it wouldn't make sense. I'd try to talk with her and get to a deal. I wouldn't really care because it's something we can all do someday.

 

[Senhor Perfect]

I want my first time to be great :ksi:

I was talking about your girlfriend :shock:

or was I?

 

[Nano]

I was talking about your girlfriend :shock:

or was I?

Who cares about my girlfriend! You, me, bromantic weekend, strip club. Do we have a deal? :ksi:

 

[catlady]

I was talking about your girlfriend :shock:

or was I?

you want it in da butt

 

[Senhor Perfect]

Who cares about my girlfriend! You, me, bromantic weekend, strip club. Do we have a deal? :ksi:

SOLD!

 

[Senhor Perfect]

you want it in da butt

I'm more Verlander than Pierzynski

 

[catlady]

I'm more Verlander than Pierzynski

The baseball reference made me giggle. :haha:

 

[Aids Johnson]

LOL, id tell them to have a good time. Learn2trust.

 

[Lady Deathbane]

Sounds like you are taking it slow. Good for you! Sound advice as well. I am naturally paranoid when it comes to relationships because I had horrible friendships with women and my only other long term relationship aside from my husband was with a guy who cheated, lied and was just an awful person. The female friends I had stabbed me in the back, one was actually with guys... Anytime a guy liked me she would tell them I was a hoe or had a disease then sleep with them. It happened more than a couple times. So right there I don't trust women around my husband, specially drunk ones. And he too has a friend that is mr. party harty. A year or so ago he was doing all kinds of drugs, drunk all the time, it was bad... And he hung out with him. The way he talked about women made me want to vomit. He no longer sees him all that much but just like a few years ago, he will be going to this "thing" with him again... I guess I am more worried about his effects on my husband, than my husband's own freewill, if that makes sense. I don't trust his friend and I never will.

Yeah, I went through my fair share of shit too. I only have one female friend that I still keep in touch with. Otherwise, everyone else are guys. I can't put up with the bullshit a lot of women start and I'm so tired of it. Hanging with just guys is so much easier and funner. In high school, every time I had different boyfriend, almost all the chicks I knew just talked so much shit it was unbelievable. I wasn't just paranoid either because some of them tried to do that thing chicks do where they pretend to be all nice and the whole time just give backhanded compliments all the time like "you and (bf's name) are the cutest couple ever but what happened to (ex's name)? it seems you guys were together just yesterday" and just shit like that. But I guess no one ever really tried to "steal" my bf's. There were a few occasions where I caught an ex flirting with other girls though, if that still counts. Idk. I guess either I trust too easily or my current one is just that awesome. Either way, I still have to trust him no matter how much shit I've been through because like I said, there's no relationship if there's no trust, just a ticking time bomb.

I had female friend once who was just so jealous that she even told me to never contact her boyfriend again when I didn't even talk to the dude, lmfao. She just gets so wrapped up into relationships that she completely forgets and neglects her friends, so I just gave up with her even though her and I were pretty close. I kept a promise to myself that I'd never be like that, so I guess that also gives more motivation to be more chill, I s'pose.

 

[Jonathan]

Meh, it wouldn't really bother me. Obviously I'd be annoyed but I'd forgive them. Because that's what I'd want them to do to me if it happened. When drink/drugs are involved it's a lot easier to forget about things that when sober you'd think about and say no.