I think you should change the "perhaps" to most definitely. If your son/daughter who you've chosen to have and love has gone missing and potentially kidnapped, you'll do anything and everything to make sure to find them or find news of if he/she is alive or not. Then and ONLY then should you try and move on with your life, there will be a lot of grieve and pain but at the end of the day you're not left with a mysteryPerhaps I should've worded my comment better... Im ok with u disagreeing. Everyone has their own opinions. Im not A Parent, But if I was, Then perhaps the circumstances would change in the searching of a child.