General Chit-Chat Thread - No Spoilers

[Comrade Khan]

we had a lecture last week oddly enough on complex trauma - the first 6 years shapes a childs brain significantly. so if shit happens in those years, it can have an eneormous negative impact

yup , and kids emulate and absorb well after that too. the shit im learning i ntherapy as to why im so fucked up, oooo wee man lol

 

[Comrade Khan]

that divorce and how my parents acted for years after, my goodness, its no wonder i am the way i am about some shit

 

[Lethal]

creatures of habit man

 

[Lethal]

even small little things I do I am conscious of now, the kids sometimes follow suit

 

[Comrade Khan]

even small little things I do I am conscious of now, the kids sometimes follow suit

and how parents talk to and about each other is a big factor, ive learned.

 

[Lethal]

yup

 

[Comrade Khan]

parents talk shit about each other, in a kids brain = talking shit about YOU

 

[Lethal]

if they see conflict resolved with yelling/fighting, they think it's acceptable

 

[Comrade Khan]

so that turns into : your parents tell you the other one is bad, therefor, YOU are bad and are not worthy of anythingf

 

[Comrade Khan]

if they see conflict resolved with yelling/fighting, they think it's acceptable

one thing i saw from a podder, randomly i may add

 

[Comrade Khan]

if u fight in front of ur kids

 

[Comrade Khan]

u should also make up in front of ur kids

 

[Comrade Khan]

so they see THAT too

 

[Comrade Khan]

thought that was very wise

 

[Comrade Khan]

and i would share