The marriage thing was a little bit of an odd decision between us because we don't really believe a lot in the institution. However, he also has a pretty rotten homophobic family. In 2003, I had a boyfriend who was hit by a semi. While he was in the hospital, his family blocked me from seeing him and fed him a bunch of lies that I molested him while he was in a coma and kept pushing his catheter in and out of his urethra like it was a sound (look it up if you don't know). All of it was lies but he believed it and when he recovered he dumped me. I can't go through something like that again, and his family likely would do this because they try to keep him from being gay. So I figured getting married is the best way to handle this issue.
That is horrible. It really bothers me that people can shame other people (especially family) for being something or a certain way in which they can't control. That is just madness. Why would you hurt someone because they happen to be gay? That is as bad as blaming someone for the color of their skin and demanding they pay the price for anything said color has ever done to them. I don't understand the mindset of this and I never will. That is the kind of fuel that keeps homophobic and racist ideologies alive. Those people should be ashamed of themselves for hurting their own son just to hurt you over something you both have no control over.