Yeah, you really don't know/understand and even when you explain it to people, they don't get it, since it is very hard to explain. And some people are lucky enough to have a support group and have people willing to help/understand them, I am glad your brother at the time had help and all. The kids who have to do it by themselves I understand them because while I had a small group of support, I pretty much did it on my own and know it fucking sucks, so i do wish they got/get the help they need.
and yeah, my brother knew something was up his whole life, but didn't really understand anything about it until his teens. He was just extremely lucky to have a supportive a.f family and an older brother to defend him. Most kids are not that lucky
for sure. And hell I didn't even understand it at first either as his sibling, for a while I was just in "you bully my brother you get your fucking ass beat" defence mode for a while, and it was even frustrating for me as I didn't quite fully get it (I didn't even know the term trans until a few years later). It's a learning process for everyone and I can even understand being confused and getting stuff wrong. But everyone deserves love and respect for who they are, and Im so sorry you had to go through all of that alone. I cant imagine how difficult that was and still is for you.
Yeah, kind of like "I don't know what is going but...anyways fucks with you I gotcha you.", and as I said most people don't and trying to explain the alienation feel and all is really fucking hard, lol. I knew of the term trans/transgender, but not enough to amount to anything and I still don't. It is a learning process for everyone, and it is confusing and getting things wrong doesn't bother me as long as you are willing to learn or be corrected should I say. I agree, and no need to be sorry it sucked but I think it made me stronger as a person. And yeah, even as someone who went through the process and still am I cannot explain the difficulty of it, unless I compare it to like playing Doom on the hardest difficulty and you have to only use the pistol and take no hits, lol. Luckly, I have people on here that are supportive, my gf, and a few other people I know in real life and on other forums.
I still don't think I "get it" but why the fuck do I need to? It's literally none of my business, doesn't effect me, and makes people happier. The world doesn't revolve around me having to understand it and doesn't cater to meWar Pig said:
A good way to look at it. And frankly, you might never get it or at least relate. CiS folks will never feel those feelings because we grew up relatively comfortable in our own skin n dont feel like we were born in the wrong gendered body. All you need is empathy, you're good
And you know admitting you don't "get it" or "understand it" is fine by me as long as I get respect, if that makes sense. I have that same outlook on several things, and I wish more people had that outlook because me being trans affects no one, but me. And you can apply that to gay marriage or whatever to some degree.
