Where are you in life?

[Colin Gimp]

I'm 19 years old. I can't afford a new pair of shoes, I can't afford to pay rent, I can't afford to advance in my life at all.

i've made some really stupid decisions in my life but the majority of them being a lack of a decision rather then a decision. I've been Lazy my whole life and now i'm turning 20 this year I don't got a car or even my learners. I just lost my fulltime job and had to move out once again (hence why i got interwebs). I have no motivation for anything and I don't know where to dig to get it. I have never once done anything for myself. I come from a small town 10 minutes away from the city. Ever since I was 14 I've been smoking weed every day skipping school and being an idiot. I'm still living the lifestyle except school is work and im not as popular and its starting ot hit me. I go from weekend to weekend taking advantage of anyone near me for anything and everything.

I never ment to make my family my support system but it ended up doing so. I just want to live a simple life, I don't got big goals in life and I certainly don't wanna work for anything, I'm a simple man with needs for simple things but now I can't even succeed in those goals. After several attempts of trying to branch off independantly I come back to my brothers house for refuge. He fucking hates me and our friendship is non existant, It really doesn't bother me as much as he'd like it to though. My mother wants nothing to do with me the stupid bitch when I turned 18 she had enough I guess and tried to kick me out. I'm too stubborn to get kicked out on the streets. I forced my way back in and now a year and months later im still fighting her and actually got in a fist fight with her boyfriend over laundry. I spent a weekend there and their boiling point was when instead of folding their laundry i put it on top of the dryer. My constant arguements with my family is all stemmed from my lazyness and now it's irreparable. At least I couldn't give a shit. I never saw myself living like this when i was 19. Thought i'd be a lot taller too haha

I know what I gotta do to better myself but I just don't see myself doing them and I just don't know why. So that leads to me to ask, IWF Where are you in life?

 

[MikeRaw]

Man, you've got problems.
Everyone fucks up, which is fine, but the fact that you realise you have all these issues (lazy, not motivated, etc)yet you still don't wanna do anything, is an issue.
You just finished saying how yoiur life style sucks, and is getting yo unowhere, and you sound like your pissed about that, yet, later on, you say your content living lazy and having other people do your shit... That's your problem.

My suggestion: No matter how much you hate doing stuff such as getting a job, yo ubetter fucking do it now. You're gonna have to do it anyways if you wanna avoid rotting to death, so it's better to do it now than when you're 40. If you don'tget off your ass, it'll only get worse.


As for me, I'm pretty content.
I'm in grade 10, and just gonna finish school. I don't need a job right now. I've had some in the past, but right now, I don't feel like one. When it comes time that I need money, instead of asking people for it, I'll go out and get a job. But I figure I'll finish school before I go an dget a full time job. After that, I'll be set. I'll have money to move out, have a job, probably have a girlfriend, and I'm good to go.
No need to worry about that now though. I'll just finish school easily, and then actually be able to have a good life.

Oh, before I go, one more thing... You keep saying you want to live a simple life and all that... Well, part of living a "simple life" is getting a job so you can you know... Afford to actually live.
Get a job, and you can be able to have a "simple life".

 

[Solid Stinger the Big Boss]

I'm really fucked up, I even thought of suicide before. I'll go into detail later

 

[J]

I'm stuck at home relying on my parents at the moment but I'm working on changing that by getting into the Navy. Imma slight bit heavy so I gotta cut some weight before I can go take the Asvap but it should be too hard only take me about a month.

 

[noumenon]

I'm 23... I'm an electrician and heavy machine operator by trade. I just got engaged last fall. We moved in together in my apartment (aka parent's basement...lol). Lived there for a few months, this past July I just bought a house, moved in there with my fiance. I just bought a BMW X5...so that's what I drive. I'm pretty damn financially stable for my age, I make around 85,000 a year...and I'm nowhere near the top of my career track.
I suppose I'm pretty damn happy. But I understand where your coming from. Until I was about 20 I had no money...couldn't afford my bills, new clothes...anything. You just have to stop feeling sorry for yourself and bust your ass and do whatever it takes.
I didn't go to college (asides from the classes I attend for electrical) but I busted my ass to have what I have now. And ya know what....I still bust my fuckin ass every day. You want nice things and to be happy sitting on your ass bitching about it isn't going to do anything. Get out and do it. And I know it sounds cliche...but it's true.

 

[straight_edge76]

I am doing pretty good if you ask me. I am 18 years old and attending community college and working full time. I recently moved out of my moms house (my bedroom was in the basment actually aha) So i have been spending a good amount of time getting that seperated. I am juggling school, work, bills and the normal life of an 18 year old. I dont have a girlfriend at the moment but it is ok since I don't have time for any of that. The money I get for Financial Aide really helps out alot. It gives me a bit of extra spending money after my bills. Which are only my rent, electricity and phone bill. The water and cable TV are paid for here

 

[Millzy Pt. 2]

I'm 15 years old and currently in the 10th grade. I think that my life is decent but could use a bit more excitement if my parents would let me have more freedom and a later curfew IMO. After high school is over I want to go straight to college and play college baseball for a division 1 or 2 school. I currently do not have a job and I absolutely want one, I'm in that stage of my life where I feel embarassed whenever I asked my parents for money when I see my peers out on their jobs. And to top it off I currently do not have a girlfriend, I just have been looking for the right girl to have a lil relationship but now all girls want to do right now is smoke, party, drink, fight, and be ignorant which completely turns me off.

 

[PeepShow]

I'm really fucked up, I even thought of suicide before. I'll go into detail later

It's because you're a wrestling fan. :shifty:

 

[noumenon]

Don't fuck up in high school...trust me. There's a time for partying... that's college.

^^lmao...I was on my high school wrestling team for a while. I got kicked off for ground and pounding this kid after he elbowed me in the ribs for the third time in one match.

 

[X-Sterl-X]

I'm 15 years old and a sophmore in high school. I love my life right now. I got alot of close friends and I like my school... My grades are C's and B's... My family life is great and I have had a girlfriend for the last 3 years... I got alot going for me right now...Also I have a job in summer but not in the winter


Edit: TO Noumenon... I drink pretty much every friday night and thats without my liscense, I just like to have fun and shit... I never abuse it, so I think i should be ok... but your advice is still good advice

 

[MrKannibal]

Everyone feels like their life is bad in their own ways. Im in a gridlock myself, and still waitin for the sun to shine. Theres others in worst situations though.

but now all girls want to do right now is smoke, party, drink, fight, and be ignorant

you forgot sex .. and yeah ill take two of them, when their 18 of course :tomato:

 

[Kaptain KnicKy]

I have to admit I'm enjoying reading the shit life stories on here. Makes me feel ... fuzzy inside, lol.

I got nothing to brag over. Since April 07 I've had a fucked left knee which has led to me falling out of shape, gaining some weight. The death of Chris Benoit, and loss of another person I idolised June 07 kick started what became depression in Jan 08. Feb 08 I dropped out of uni, had to move back in with my mum and then my depression got worse. I picked up some work at the video store in town, which I failed at miserable and eventually left due to depression. Since November I've been in and out of trying to find work, a crippling case of lack of confidence and no self esteem making it near impossible to look for work. I'm not motivated, I'm lazy, I have no friends around me, no life. The one girl I loved dumped me because my depression had gotten so bad in Dec 08, just before Chrissy. A second girl I've grown fond to has moved countries, so she's basically out of my life.

Lately I've been toyed around with my doctors and my knee, their incompetence not letting me get this fixed, which has left me being pretty much immobile on days. I live off 'the doll' here in Aus, which I'm not proud of in any way, I can't afford anything and do pretty much nothing each and every day. I feel I've got no worth on this planet, and realised if I died tomorrow in some freak accident I wouldn't miss the day that follows. I'm not suicidal, unfortunately, because I'll fear I go to hell if I take my life.


With all that shit, I still see (at times) a 'bright light' at the end of the tunnel. I know in July this year I can become a taxi driver - something I'm itching to do as I LOVE to drive, and I've heard there's great money in it. Start of 2010, I'm moving the fuck out of my mum's place and back to Brissy with my friends. I'll live down there, work as a taxi driver, and pay off debts to my mum and to the bank which I've somehow managed to rack up last year. So my life's pretty shit at the moment, but I know that it's going to take time to fix things, and get them in order!


By the way, Colin, you should probably see a therapist. I've been putting it off for sometime, but finally got around to it and I've been helped with not only my depression, but I'm working on my lack of motivation, no confidence, no self esteem etc. It's helping and free, too.

My apologies, I didn't read those who were still in school - those are the best years of your life. You'll realise it when you leave, lol.

 

[Toddy]

To be honest I think I am doing well in life I am 15 and have apart time in the weekends but I don't like to drink or go to parties much I am in most Top classes and have been told by teachers that I have the right mindset at school to go far I am reasonably popular guy but have no girlfriend at the moment but am not really worried about it and I have a great set of mates.
So all I have to say to you Colin is have the right set of mind and set goals for yourself that is what I do I have goals for almost everything and I generally achieve them and so I know I am improving or achieving what I want

 

[noumenon]

Wow man, I never realized how young some people on this forum were. If you guys are in HS don't take too much shit seriously except for what you've got to do. IE, schoolwork, earn some cash on the side when you can.

-Don't worry about girls, there's literally billions of them out there and virtually NO ONE stays with the same girl they dated in HS. (I actually am, but we went our seperate ways for a while somewhere in there)

-Fuck being popular. What the hell does popularity mean? Jack shit. The popular guys in HS usually go nowhere and are the ones who show up 20 years later to their HS reunion wearing an ill fitting varsity baseball jacket because that's all they have to cling to.

Trust me, I've been 15...16 years old thinking how much the world sucks and all that crap. Once you get into your 20's you'll see how drastically your mind set on everything will change. So yeah, enjoy your teen angst while it last because that shit only flies for a little while...lol. But c'mon...as teenagers NO ONE should have any fucking reason to be depressed or stressed unless they've got some seriously heavy shit in their life.

 

[Moonlight Drive]

Edit again-I'm fine with where I am right now. I don't feel the need to divulge that far into my life. There are positives and negatives.T he fact that although I'm generally beloved by my peers is great, but I find it hard to get close to people (emotionally, not physically, lol). Family life is fucked royally and always has been, but then again there's always somebody who's worse off than me.

Anyway, so was this thread for sympathy or just attention?