Life, and how you will be happy...

[Kaptain KnicKy]

So I'm pretty much a pessimistic, due to some things that have changed in my life. This got me to thinking about happiness. I don't plan on being happy in life, I just don't, but I always wonder what I can do/achieve/change and what not to be happy in some aspects of my life.

So my question to you all is, what things in your life do you want/need to be happy?

Money
Relationships
Friends
Unpredictability/Routine

Label some vague things like that, or possible some specific things like ... I don't know, a particular type of car.

For me, there isn't really too much. There are two girls who I would, if I could, would move across seas to be with. I would like to have financial stability, and a job that I can be good at and enjoy. Those are pretty much the things I would need to be remotely happy.

What do you need?

 

[Italian Outsider]

Money.And a lot of...

Anything else will come as consequence.Girls will come seeking for money.
Friends?Who needs them? People just use you as long as they need you, then they quit for someone else.If you have loads of money, ''friends'' aka asskissers will come.
Something unpredictable? Again, once you have loads of money, you'll try something by yourself.''

It's lame, but true.

 

[★Chuck Zombie★]

I have a lot of friends and I have a girlfriend who I will be finally marrying in April. We were doing alright financially for a while, but she got laid off and her work is still illegally holding her last 2 paychecks. Plenty of stress there. I do wish I had enough money so that me or my gf would have to work again. I know the asskissers will come around, but I'll stick with the friends that are tried and true. I'm a pretty cheap bastard too....maybe not Mick Foley cheap, but I definitely wouldn't be buying expensive houses and cars. Simple ones will do.

 

[Kaptain KnicKy]

Money.And a lot of...

Anything else will come as consequence.Girls will come seeking for money.
Friends?Who needs them? People just use you as long as they need you, then they quit for someone else.If you have loads of money, ''friends'' aka asskissers will come.
Something unpredictable? Again, once you have loads of money, you'll try something by yourself.''

It's lame, but true.

Not really. Maybe I'm still young and naive, but I have friends who are ... you know, friends! Maybe it's different here in Aussie land, but those of my friends, the very few I have (I'm counting 5-6) are those who aren't just around me to use me. Heh, they can't anyway.

 

[Italian Outsider]

meh, i'm very strict about friends.many people consider me their friend, but only 3-4 are really friends to me. ''don't trust anybody''(taken from Stone Cold lol) is my first rule in everything.

 

[gatesoftanhauser]

What I need in life:

Money: Not a whole hell of a lot, just enough to have some savings and live comfortably

Friends: I've got enough close friends. Most of my "friends" are acquantinces.

Relationships: I've been happily married to the best trophy-wife in the world for 3 years now. One child and hopefully more. Settled and done in this category.

Career: More promotions and a Master's Degree. Want to get commissioned as an officer (US ARMY) before I'm 30. Those are my goals. I won't stop until I achieve them.

 

[Seventh Reason]

To me, achieving happiness is not measured in dollars, post-nominals, party invitations or how many chicks you have Jackson Pollock'd with your cock (kudos Entourage).

Happiness and satisfaction in life is controlled by the strength of my inner-self only. Nobody and nothing has the permission to manipulate you, unless you allow it to do so.

Happiness is easily achieved in gratitude for what you have already.

The fact you are alive and presumably well in this modern age world is all you need. As a "member" of this worldwide community, your opportunities to make something of your life are endless. What can hold you back from doing anything is ... you.

It's all in the mind. I have three friends (two live in Hong Kong), no girlfriend, little to no money, rarely am out on the town (almost 0 social life), left school two years before completion, and spent three years bogged down with a mind-manipulated bout of manic depression - isolated from everything imaginable bar my family - and that might sound quite unappealing. And I wouldn't stare daggers at you for thinking so.

But I believe I am the happiest person on earth.

 

[rosewt01]

Money: Quite a bit to be finaclly secure but have a nice Car plus wear nice clothes.

Friends: When i'm older, i'll like a few friends not lose, its not needed, just bout five good friends and about 20 kinda frienda, a bit like now for me.

Relationships: JUst to be married to a women i love, pretty simple.

Career: Maybe something in politics.

 

[monkeystyle]

I will be happy by doing whatever it is that makes me happy tbh.

It's about not limiting yourself and learning how to be selfish.

That's how I'll be happy.

 

[MikeRaw]

Instead of dreaming about being some rock star, or actor, I'd prefer to be realistic, so here it goes.

Im 16 now. I figure if I get a part time job (my second) when I'm 17 or 18, I can work part time after school until I graduate.
I will finish school at 18, and when I'm 19 I'll get a car (of my own, because I'll already have my liscense but not my own car) and start working full time, and by then, get an actual girlfriend.. I've had many girlfriend, and will have a few more probably before I'm 19, but when I'm 19, thats when I'll probably get serious.
I want to move out into an apartment when I'm 21, and get an office job, full time, and live on my own. That way, if I have work during the day, when I go home at night, I can be on my own to do whatever I like and whenever I feel like hanging with someone, I'll have a girlfriend and a few friends I could call up.
When I'm 25, I figure I can get married then, and move into an actual house, and be comfortable. I'd have a job, a house, a wife, and enough money to get by, nothing spectacular.
From there, I'd be set.

So basically, as long as I can get a normal full time job in my early 20's, and have enough money to live comfortably, along with a girlfriend/wife, I'd be happy.

So, to answer your question:
Money: Just enough.
Relationship: Girlfriend in my 20's.
Friends: I dont need a ton of asskissers who pretend to be friends and cause drama. I'd say 3 close friends is enough. Of course I'll know other people, but as for actual friend, 3 sounds good.
Career: Job

 

[Soulpower]

You know... I don't even know anymore. For a while it looked like things were turning around for me, but they've gone back to normal (Another way of saying things suck right now).

To quote something Knicky said in his first post.

I don't plan on being happy in life, I just don't.

That's pretty much where I'm at. Not only do I not plan on being happy in life, I don't expect to be happy in life. I've gotten used to the fact that everytime things go right for me, its only a matter of time before things start going wrong again.

 

[noumenon]

To not strive to be happy in life is just ridiculous. I think everyone goes through that whole phase though... as did I. For me it was between the age of about 19-21...when I was kind of just floundering around not really doing anything of value. But ya know what... I got my shit together...mentally, emotionally and even physically and I really consider myself to be pretty damn successful for my age.

I work as a Local #3 electrician for a private contracting company. I also work as a personal trainer for a little extra money...
I love to play guitar and I've been writing and playing music since I was about 14...I occasionally play shows at local clubs and bars.
I am engaged to gorgeous girl (who is a psychologist) who I've been with for 4 years now..
I have an awesome dog...lol
I just bought my first house..
I drive a BMW X5 and a shitty beatup Chevy S10 that I use for work...


So yeah, everything I've got I'de say I'm pretty happy right now. Do I need everything I have to be happy....no.......but it doesn't hurt.
Happiness definately isn't something that's handed to you, you've got work to make yourself happy. Sometimes it's really hard...but ya know what...once you get there it's great.

 

[Moonlight Drive]

Suppose I'm the opposite of Mike. Fuck being realistic, the higher you aim the higher you'll get. I've never grown up with much, so scraping the bottom of the barrel is only tough if you make it that way. I know I'll never be able to deal with a desk job, and right now the only jobs I'd actually want to be do and me happy doing are a wrestler, musician or author. I'd much prefer living fast and dieing young than wasting 60+ years doing nothing but walk into work every morning, go home every night and continue that cycle for the rest of my life.

As for friends, I've got many of them, but hardly any I'm actually that close to. All I really need to get by friendswise is 5-6 people who's company I enjoy and I can trust. Relationships comes and go which you just have to accept, but I do want to get married and have kids someday.

Eh, I suppose I've got my head in the clouds. Although I'd prefer that then having my feet on the ground.

 

[Seventh Reason]

Suppose I'm the opposite of Mike. Fuck being realistic, the higher you aim the higher you'll get.

You have the right mindset to become iconic, if I may say so. Stick to those guns and you're three-quarters of the way there already.