I'm surrounded by dumbasses...

[The Great Cochrane]

I've had to get this off my chest for the last little while. But after another wasted night filled with debauchary, cocaine and alcohol... I realized that I'm surrounded by idiots.

I don't know why, my buddy introduced me to these people and after all since he's been by my side since I was 17 of course I'd tag along. But after a certain ammount of time, I realized they were just being fools all the time with barely any sense of direction in life. I have dreams that I wanna aspire to and other things I actually want to accomplish in my life and hanging out with these guys I've never gonna get any of that shit done.

I'm moving out to get my own space and to get my head straight over the last little while. But the truth is whenever they don't get all rowdy and what not they're actually some decent people. Punks.. how do I tell them that I'm fed up with the way things are going and still keep the friendship?

 

[Postman Dave]

you don't have to say anything. Just distance yourself for a while.

 

[Starlight]

I say it sounds like a lot of uselessness and negative energy, which nobody needs to be around. I don't think you should only distance yourself from this group for a while, but until they start to show some positive change and direction in their lives. If you give it some time to step aside and then reenter the group, it's going to be the same unless they change. If you want more from your life and you want to do more, then you need to be around a better productive and positive group opposed from this one. You can always be friends with people at a distance. We all have those friends we love because there's so much history between them, but we do not necessary like where they are going in life or going in a direction we don't particularly want to go, so we keep them at an arms' distance.

 

[Sabretooth]

Tell them that you think they're hurting their future by what they're doing. If they don't listen, then they're not worth your time or energy. Find some new friends.

 

[Fuji Vice]

you don't have to say anything. Just distance yourself for a while.

I'd agree with this, just focus on yourself and your goals and forget about these guys.

 

[Byron Hicks]

Tell them how you feel and to knock off the bullcrap. If they don't punch em in the face then go get some ice cream. But, seriously if they don't shape up then distance yourself from their life.

 

[Swamps]

Hey man, I was actually in a very similar situation recently. As a matter of fact, I just moved into a new place last month. One of my closest friends and I were renting an apartment just after our deployment to Afghanistan and we were like night and day. He wanted to drink and party and I wanted to work and keep improving both in the military and civilian career. However, he would have his friends come over at all hours of the night and, more often than not were loud as hell. One time they came into the house at 3:00 AM, loud as hell, while me and my girlfriend at the time were sleeping. Needless to say, they woke me up and I ran everyone, including my friend/roommate, out of the house.

Anyway, he apologized the next day and we were cool again. I mean this went own for almost eight months until I decided to move out. He understood and we are still really close friends. As a matter of fact, we text and talk often. Our friendship is better now and since I’ve got away from all of the nonsense. So you will be ok, man. However, I’ll leave you with some advice someone gave me years ago, “The World is your playground here for your amusement, so fuck what everyone else thinks. Because the only person you have got to please is yourself”.